the baby having is officially done, to snip
You may remember the very popular post here, To Snip or Not to Snip. Well, it’s been decided. Snip. Brian is having a vasectomy. He goes to see the urologist this week.
Now, technically that just means that the having of babies by me is done. I do not wish to be pregnant ever again! I know that sounds awful, and some women love being pregnant. Most people assume that because I have four kids I’m one of those women. I assure that I am not. All four of our pregnancies were high risk. Three out of four had many problems, and we nearly lost two out of four. It was an emotional roller coaster each time, and when I had complications in the 8th month carrying Ethan (our youngest) I proclaimed that I would never, ever again be pregnant.
We have four amazing, beautiful, wonderful little boys and for that I am thankful. Some quack doctor once told me after a miscarriage that I’d never have children. I think I’ve sufficiently proven him wrong at this point.
This decision does not mean that we don’t want to grow our family anymore. We would love to have more children… just not in the traditional way. There are so many children out there that need homes and families to care for them. They’re just waiting for someone to show some interest in their existence. Well, we care, and we’re interested. If we are able in a position to adopt we will jump at the chance. In our current situation I don’t see an adoption agency granting our wish for another child. Our home is not big enough, nor are our salaries. Let me clarify that — there are no income restrictions in the state of Virginia for adoption, but it wouldn’t be right to bring a child in on our already shoestring budget the way the economy looks right this moment. “Adequate space” is required however, and we have a three bedroom home with six people living in it … I think we’re limited on space by most organization’s standards.
This all makes me sad because I know there are many children out there that are waiting to be adopted and will spend their entire lives in foster care because everyone always wants a “new baby” and they overlook the many great children that are over the age of 1 and need a home. Sad. My heart cries for these children. Hopefully in a year or two things will be not so crazy and we will be able to pursue an adoption plan.
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Thank you for taking care of yourself and not putting yourself in anymore risk. Its also a risk for the perspective child. I think you did the right thing, thanks for sharing your story.
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I definitely don’t think that what you said about pregnancy is a bad thing. You are making a wise decision to protect yourself from any further complications that being pregnant would cause. And you are absolutely right, you can still grow your family! Adoption is such a wonderful thing and such a blessing to those kids out there that need families.
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I wanted a boy and a girl, in that order - got that, I loved the second and third trimester and was devoted to vaginal and natural childbirth, i was able to do that too - but my first trimesters about killed me both times - I was so sooooo sick. After I had my daughter I actually got snipped. Raising them later singly ( so not part of the plan) I am glad I stopped at 2, I think first fiscally I never could have handled more , and now that my second will be off to college in a year there is actually something to be said to life after raising children. I never would have said that 20 years ago
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